Factors Influencing the Inhibition of Forgiveness of Infidelity in Traumatized Men and Women
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raziyeh najiollahi malakshah
1
,
Mohamad Ali Rahmani
2
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,
Mohammadreza Zarbakhsh
3
1 - PhD student in Counseling, Department of Psychology, Tonekabon Branch, Islamic Azad University, Tonekabon, Iran
2 -
3 - Department of Psychology, Tonkabon Branch, Islamic Azad Univrersity, Tonkabon , Irann
Keywords: inhibition of forgiveness, infidelity, affected men and women,
Abstract :
The present study aimed to analyze the components influencing the inhibition of forgiveness of infidelity among men and women who had experienced it. This study was conducted qualitatively using a phenomenological approach. The statistical population included Iranian men and women who had been betrayed by their spouses in their current or past marital relationships and had forgiven them. The sampling method was voluntary non-random sampling combined with snowball sampling, through which 14 participants (9 women and 5 men) were selected. The research instrument was a semi-structured interview. Data were analyzed using Colaizzi’s seven-step method. The findings obtained from the initial coding resulted in the formation of 34 meaning units, which, based on their similarities, were categorized into 9 subthemes. Finally, these sub-themes were organized into four main themes: individual-centered factors, spouse-centered factors, relationship-centered factors, and social factors. The results of this study can help therapists and counselors design more targeted interventions to rebuild trust, improve relation-ships, reduce the negative effects of infidelity on life, and provide more effective services. Moreover, by identifying, facilitating, and re-moving barriers to forgiveness, individuals affected by infidelity can better navigate the difficult process of forgiveness, thereby enhancing their physical and psychological well-being.
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